My friend recently lost her mom. Upon hearing the news my heart was filled with so much love for her. I could relate to that strange feeling where you knew your life was changed forever, yet you couldn't grasp that it was actually true.
I remember standing in the coffee shop days after learning the severity of my own mom's diagnosis of stage 4 cancer. The world was spinning madly on and I couldn't understand how that was possible. Life as I knew it was crumbling around me and yet there were people going about their day to day activity. Didn't they know that I was on the verge of being changed forever? Couldn't they see the sadness in my eyes? Did they not feel the hurt spilling from my heart? They rushed passed me, not even noticing that I was there.
When you are in this deep phase of sadness every day task's take an incredible amount of effort to complete. Before you would wake up and brush your teeth as if you were on autopilot. But within the grief you need to literally push yourself out of bed and force yourself to do something so ordinary. It is as if everything has slowed down and you are living in a thick cloud of fog.
I stood in the coffee shop this morning. Consciously choosing to tuck my phone into my pocket and look around. I know nothing of the lives of the individuals sharing this space with me. I don't know what they did right before they arrived here or where they were going after. For someone their life could be changing and I would become that person rushing past them.
We never know what someone else is going through. We do not know if they just had the best moment of their life or if they are struggling to complete an ordinary task like ordering a cup of coffee. This realization is a reminder to always treat people with kindness. Have patience with strangers, and be willing to cut people some slack and give them the benefit of the doubt.
That person driving erratically past you; maybe they are on the way to the hospital for that last moment with their loved one. Sure it looks and feels like and ordinary day for you but for them their is nothing ordinary about it.
Together let's remember to open our hearts a little bit wider and choose kindness. Smile at strangers, hold the door open, say please and thank you. It is these simple gestures that bring peace and calm to those who are in the haze, and it also brings more love to our world. This world could use all the love that people are willing to give it. Let's fill it with hearts!
:: A little musical inspiration which inspired the title of this post ::